Sunday, January 25, 2015

Better Late than Never.

I met my first husband at eleven years and married at almost twenty.
Yes, my mother sent me nursing to get me away from him, but my love for him won out.
It was a traumatic marriage and not the kind, sharing team work you see between most young ones today.

I had to comply to his wishes or there were physical repercussions.
Needless to say, I was quiet and shy and remained locked in a life of walking on eggshells.

  Myself (L) and work mate Lynn (R).


Perhaps God knew, and I am sure he did, that if my first husband had been more loving and kind I would not have developed the faith in The Creator God that has remained steadfast.

Often alone at nights, as hubby went out to socialise, I'd get my children off to bed and then soak in the bath before retiring myself.

Here was my learning time as the Holy Spirit worked on my soul.  I'd withdraw three different bible versions an exercise book, pen and concordance from underneath  my low to the floor bed and study Gods word. How did I do that?  Well I would take a word I was interested in, like Heaven, and then with the help of the concordance study everything the Bible had to say on this subject.

At one stage my then husband found my study implements and took them away and threw them into an incinerator. But, eventually I obtained more and studied again.

There is much I could write about this, but my son said it simply the other day. His wise advise was, "God put our eyes on the front of our heads to look forward.....not back."

With this in mind, I thank God for never leaving nor forsaking me in all those years.
I have four beautiful children from that marriage and a second husband who is completely opposite to the first.

LIFE LESSON:
Become Better from your experiences and NOT bitter.

Jeremiah 29:11




Gods promise to us.... and I stand on it. Thank you Lord.
 


 


25 comments:

  1. I'm sorry that you had to go through all that, but you are proof that God can bring good, even from our bad experiences. Bless you, my gentle friend, and your husband and family as well.

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  2. Thank you so very much. You are a blessing to my soul.

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  3. Your son is wise, look forward as God means us to.

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  4. Thank God that He sees us thru times like that. He knew He had a better plan for your life. I like your sons advice. I had never heard that before and that's so true. I love that verse too. God is so good!!!! So happy that you got out of that situation. You are blessed!!

    One of the hardest times in my life was before I met my husband. I always wanted to be a wife and a mother. I had high standards. I wanted a Christian, etc. and wasn't settling. I thought I would never find that. I prayed and prayed. I was so depressed. I dated a guy off and on for 3 years. Everyone loved him. He was funny and everyone always loved being around him. Little did they know.....he wasn't really like that. He mentally abused me and there were a few times when he was physical. I'm pretty sure he had me brainwashed. I kept going back to him. Thank God I finally got away from him for good and stayed away. I can't imagine being married to a man like that and having to live a miserable life. I prayed and prayed. I told God exactly what I wanted. he blessed me with my wonderful husband. He's a Christian and exactly what I prayed for. I am soooo grateful. He had a different plan for my life. It was all in his timing. I jus had to trust in Him.

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    1. Thank you for telling me of your experience, I am very glad you were wise enough to make the break from the wrong man. I wish I had been that wise! I will ask you to pray for 3 of my children, all grown up, male 46, female 42, and another male 36. They have made wrong choices and all desire a loving Christian spouse.. Much love sent your way. xx

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    2. I most certainly will. I actually just did. It's all in God's timing. Tell them to just trust in Him and keep God first in their lives.

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    3. Yes I will tell them. And I will also tell them about you, xxx

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  5. I am so sorry for all bad things in your life. You are precious in His eye!

    xxx

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    1. Thank you Aritha.. I have been broken, but through the mercy of God, he directed me on a better path.

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  6. Reminds men my past too and I am so glad God had given me my husband now who is like an angel to me. God is good and precious is His words!

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  7. Reminds men my past too and I am so glad God had given me my husband now who is like an angel to me. God is good and precious is His words!

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  8. I can't thank you enough for sharing your story. I have such a deep love for God and hearing how He brought you out of such an unloving relationship encourages and inspires me like you wouldn't believe. I'm glad I found your blog today. Blessings to you... :)

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    1. God bless you also.. We all have stories to tell, and with a faith in God ...he sustains and brings us through.
      I wrote a book to inspire other.. It is on my Author Blog ( top right hand ) of this page. My Motto in life is, It doesn't matter where or what you have come from in your past. You can still have a better future.. I have to decide whether hurts or Jesus rules our life. If it is Jesus then we need to forgive and pray for those who hurt us, then get on with living a life to be a blessing to others. xx

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  9. I haven't visited in a while....what a great writing to return to. My faith wasn't strengthened because of a sad marriage ...yet the circumstances were similar. It was my Mom. And you know how much I love that scripture. HOPE you have an awesomely blessed day!

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  10. Your first marriage sounds similar to mine..Thank the Lord he also gave me a second marriage just the opposite of my first....God is so good!

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    1. Amen, God is good.. I am so glad you are happier now.

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  11. Beautiful post Crystal Mary! I wanted to thank you for commenting on my blog. I have been trying to figure out a way to place a "REPLY" section so I can reply without doing it on the person's blog, but so far no luck. Anyway, I wanted to let you know something. My Pastor has given us a message titled "where there is a dove, there is a devil". It seems as though the more you do right and try to live FOR GOD, the devil will attack that much more. He knows he only has a short time before "his end" shall come to pass, so he is going to fight tooth and nail to get as many souls as possible, and the way to do that is to wear people down. Don't give up. The more he attacks just know that you are doing what is right in God's eyes, and count it as a blessing. I definitely know where you are coming from. I will keep you in my prayers. God Bless! PJ

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  12. God Bless you Patti, as Christians we feel we have to have it all together.. For over a year now, I and my grown children have suffered so many crazy attacks that people who don't know us, would think we make them up. Yes satan is after those who are not his. I tried praying against the evil, then binding and loosening, and now I just give thanks for all.... Love and blessings sent your way. xx

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  13. Glad to hear you have a good husband now and wonderful children.

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    1. Hello Bethany, what a special name you have. Thank you for your kind words.

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  14. Thank you for sharing about your pain and healing through God! I know if will help others who are in similar situations.

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    1. Yes Cynthia, and that's the only reason I share. We all need to be encouraged that life is a classroom of bad and good. Its not what happens to us that matters, but how we deal with it.

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